Discoveries about peace, forgiveness, hope and the blessings I enjoy as I cope with addiction.
#yeahbuturawesomeatposts. I read this comment when you wrote it, thinking that it deserved its' own post and, voilá, here it is!I see so much great stuff in it! First, I think it's awesome that you recognize the desirability of a lust free sexual relationship, you want it, and you are holding out for it. That is SO worth whatever sacrifice, and Pete is going to thank you later. Second, there is SO much hope for a relationship wherein the partners will listen patiently to each other. Pete deserves as much credit as you do on that, from the sound of it. Taking lust out of the equation WILL free you both to achieve a level of intimacy that is so amazingly awesome! Anyway, I would have never believed how much better it would be in recovery from lust, and I truly believe thay you are headed there. Be patient, be loving, but be firm in maintaining your resolve to do what is right. You are doing really great, Jane!
I also appreciated your comment on the other blog, and I love that you are taking care of yourself!
Creating boundaries is by far one of the hardest things to do, well, sticking to them is the hardest. Followed by detaching with love, I still struggle with that one. I tend to want to throw up my walls and I have to be careful not to detach for to long too. It's been a long time learning and I'm still a work in progress. My best to you both.
Man, Jane, I just love you so much :-) Keep up being awesome :-) I learn something from everything you write . ..
I appreciated this so much! I stole your boundary to put in my arsenal if this comes up in the future in my marriage. I am so proud of you for staying strong and sticking to what is right for you.Love you:)
Add me to the list of admirers and lovers. (not lovers...people who love you....whatever. I'm not creepy. :)) I have such a hard time explaining this to Husband, and I don't know how to articulate it into a clear boundary. Because right now it's just a feeling. I won't have sex when I feel like him his fix. But he doesn't know what that means and the lack of clarity is...not better. Anyway, point is I hope it brings you more and more healing and peace.
Jane,I'm so glad that you found some clarity. I had a similar moment the other day when my husband was dishing out some of his stress and I was able to listen without offering solutions, minimizing the issue, or judging his actions. I asked a few questions along the way and by the end of our conversation he came around to his own conclusions/solutions and he was at peace. It was a pretty neat experience.