tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post7610734317882536512..comments2023-10-07T08:28:40.726-07:00Comments on Learning from My Husband's Pornography Addiction: Judging the JudgersJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15354593791540400671noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-53895052910616385092012-05-15T06:44:45.768-07:002012-05-15T06:44:45.768-07:00I'm getting better at this not judging thing, ...I'm getting better at this not judging thing, one step at a time. Thanks for helping me see another facet of it that I need to work on! <br />It sounds like we come from very similar families -- my question to you is, how does your family handle you pulling away from this kind of conversation . . . I've tried to get away from judgements and talking about others, and I find my Mother (in particular) gets frustrated with me when I try and shut down her criticisms and assumptions about others, and acts like I'm attacking her, and it's starting to really strain our relationship, and all I'm trying to do is cut negativity out of my life . . .HXhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00339766387498092168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-25188042796183414962012-05-15T06:27:59.752-07:002012-05-15T06:27:59.752-07:00This is a reeeeealy good post Jane. We are all gui...This is a reeeeealy good post Jane. We are all guilty of this... but what I love most....<br /><br />"Because I've discovered true beauty in love. Love for the suffering AND the self-righteous. I've learned that once I free myself of criticizing thoughts about others, I am no longer paranoid about other people having critical thoughts about me"<br /><br />Thank you!<br /><br />XOMy Name is JACYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02655423837827036382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-56464669285413919742012-05-14T16:54:11.418-07:002012-05-14T16:54:11.418-07:00Amen sister!! As someone who had to deal with many...Amen sister!! As someone who had to deal with many "judgers"<br />(is that even a word?) when my personal situation came to light it was really hard not to judge everyone for judging my husband.<br /><br />I'm still workin on it. ;)mrs mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11517913840143371524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-14337691572619537892012-05-14T09:44:58.863-07:002012-05-14T09:44:58.863-07:00This is a really great post with some deep insight...This is a really great post with some deep insight. Listening to Elder Busche will do that to you! :) <br /><br />I don't have much else to add other than I totally agree, and that I've felt some of that same liberating power as I've freed myself from judging others. But like the rest of you are noticing...there seems to be some kind of staircase that all of us are on when it comes to learning stuff like this. We realize how silly we've been in condemning or judging those we've been asked to love, we change our ways, and feel liberation. Perhaps that liberation makes us more sensitive to the fact that there is yet another person or group of people we've been judging, and when we stop, we become even more free...which makes us sensitive to yet another group that before we were blinded to. <br /><br />I think it just keeps going on and on...until we slowly learn how to develop and express real Christ-like love. <br /><br />It's an awesome process though isn't it?Danny Kofoedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16686862165681527318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-73517288368203034952012-05-13T20:20:26.388-07:002012-05-13T20:20:26.388-07:00Me too, judging was easy. I also come from a long...Me too, judging was easy. I also come from a long line of judgers. Why do we think we're better than everyone else...who knows. But then I got slammed with this sex addiction thing and BAM! I live in utter humility.<br /><br />Please don't judge me. :)<br /><br />p.s. Happy mother's day!Scabshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13738638161899826056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-78837317196217361772012-05-13T15:06:15.879-07:002012-05-13T15:06:15.879-07:00Deep thoughts Jane. I like to think that charity i...Deep thoughts Jane. I like to think that charity is simply giving people the benefit of the doubt. We all need kindness.Marleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02081458884731101084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-14918200231495908802012-05-13T13:51:31.147-07:002012-05-13T13:51:31.147-07:00Ahhh ! This post cuts home as I too came to this ...Ahhh ! This post cuts home as I too came to this realization recently. I am becoming more aware of my continual judging. I still do it and Jane's right - it's just different now. And while I try to be less judgmental - I am pretty sure that I won't be perfect in that - not in this lifetime. And again, this is where the Atonement comes in. And I believe the Savior knows the intent of my heart. <br /><br />Hope I am making some sense !Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09137199568556410466noreply@blogger.com