tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post6806770827188796698..comments2023-10-07T08:28:40.726-07:00Comments on Learning from My Husband's Pornography Addiction: ShamedJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15354593791540400671noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-37978679644242113772012-01-20T15:13:05.607-08:002012-01-20T15:13:05.607-08:00I entirely agree with the comments about emerging ...I entirely agree with the comments about emerging science—both in terms of how it is a defense and that the findings need to be talked about more. The days of saying ‘we don’t know that pornography has harmful side effects’ are gone, simply because we have a couple of decades of scientific research that shows it does. <br /><br />The focus of our film—-the need for open, honest, communication—-was actually prompted by recent research. Zitzman and Butler’s 2005 study (among others) published in Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, focused on what made for effective treatment of pornography addiction and found that the most prominent theme among couples in therapy was “restoration of trust (consisting of honest and open communication)”. One of the characteristics of shame is that it promotes silence and reclusiveness rather than open communication and help seeking. It’s certainly not the only element of the issue that needs attention, but it is the one we’re focusing on. <br /><br />We do intend to present scientific evidence in the film and have already approached several experts on addiction/counseling /pornography effects to appear on camera.Shamedhttp://www.facebook.com/shamedfilmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-28623782418124541882012-01-20T13:31:42.014-08:002012-01-20T13:31:42.014-08:00I think "open, honest, healthy communication ...I think "open, honest, healthy communication on pornography" includes talking about the emerging science around pornography as an addiction. I don't think those two things are mutually exclusive. I think open communication includes educating people about the emerging science. It's all one and the same. At least that's how I view it.<br /><br />I'm glad you posted this. I'm going to post about it as well. I'd be interested to see exactly what is conveyed through this project, since we've all spent a lot of time on the pendulum of wanting to talk about this with everyone and wanting to stay quiet out of respect to our husbands.Machttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16251056309107388969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-36887561141204178292012-01-19T18:23:22.816-08:002012-01-19T18:23:22.816-08:00I guess I didn't do a good job of showing that...I guess I didn't do a good job of showing that those words are not mine, they come from the "Shamed" website. But I do agree with them or I wouldn't have posted them here. I am very grateful for emerging science but I can confidently say that open, honest and healthy communication has been imperative to the healing of my relationship with my addict. I suppose we all find protection in different ways. I'm sorry for the pain pornography has caused you, and I hope that we can all come together to find solutions.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15354593791540400671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-25777322756647654872012-01-19T11:50:03.994-08:002012-01-19T11:50:03.994-08:00As someone who's ex-husband was addicted to po...As someone who's ex-husband was addicted to pornography (which led to us getting divorced), I have to disagree with you when you say that "Our best protection is open, honest, healthy communication on pornography…" as I believe our best protection is the emerging science connected to the idea that pornography is damaging both to the individual, their partner and even to society as a whole. This is the past that anti-cigarette advocates took back in the 1950s and 1960s and look where it brought their cause to today.Porn Addiction Divorceehttp://findhisporn.comnoreply@blogger.com