tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post6341761167755884053..comments2023-10-07T08:28:40.726-07:00Comments on Learning from My Husband's Pornography Addiction: Nasty InsecuritiesJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15354593791540400671noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-2802480015685864502013-10-17T22:28:24.123-07:002013-10-17T22:28:24.123-07:00I've been loving your posts but haven't co...I've been loving your posts but haven't commented yet. Your anger post resonated with me and now this one too. I too am learning to lean into the pain these last few days/weeks (ever since Camp Scabs). I feel it is important to be okay with sitting with and observing the pain, honoring it a little bit, actually. And then turning to God. You are awesome! I just feel like I've been going through some of the same stuff. Text me if you need to this weekend. So glad I got to meet you!!! -- (not putting my name here -- can you figure out which Scabs girl I am?) <br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-11297483063759275762013-10-17T09:27:25.400-07:002013-10-17T09:27:25.400-07:00I had totally assumed you were coming---so sad you...I had totally assumed you were coming---so sad you are not! You will DEFINITELY be missed! Thank you so much for sharing your fears so openly. You are not alone in them. I think I have all of them myself. You are a fabulous person, and such an example to me for turning to the Lord so beautifully.Victory Nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08445351860503010018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-41158395093964250062013-10-15T21:26:06.265-07:002013-10-15T21:26:06.265-07:00And now you're triggering MY big fear based me...And now you're triggering MY big fear based meltdown! Geez, I hate that feeling. I hate missing out. I hate being left out. I hate wondering if anybody will notice that I'm either of those things. And I hate hate hate feeling like I don't belong in a group that i CLEARLY belong in. (church, girls, friends, wopas, blah blah blah. <br /><br />I love you, we'll miss you like crazy and HEY! Now that you learned your lesson (cuz it's just a one shot thing right? Lesson learned....CHECK!) You can come down any time you want!Buffalo Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05715621872243024241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-52099247209705284642013-10-15T21:24:11.955-07:002013-10-15T21:24:11.955-07:00Amen to all of the above. "B list WoPA" ...Amen to all of the above. "B list WoPA" makes me cringe, cry and giggle all at once. I love you.Buffalo Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05715621872243024241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-57578211102359734282013-10-15T18:35:08.767-07:002013-10-15T18:35:08.767-07:00I think you rock.I think you rock.Harriethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13474537556571688575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-64934106435931283682013-10-15T11:51:24.995-07:002013-10-15T11:51:24.995-07:00Wow, can I relate to this! (And I'd seriously...Wow, can I relate to this! (And I'd seriously been writing you an email like 10 minutes ago asking why you weren't coming, but then deleted it, 'cause I didn't want to pry -- voila, a whole blog post just to answer my question!) I've had so many of these same fears -- even going to that first 'conference', dealing with the feeling that I was a b-list WoPA and didn't fit in,m, :-) I'm awesome on the phone, but suck at texting, and haven't built some of the great relationships I know others have via email and texting. A lot of my insecurities surrounded my blog early on -- I feel like I'm a good writer and have stuff to offer, and yet, no matter how hard I've tried to get into blogging about this, something pulls me back. And honestly, I think it's for some of these same reasons you listed here (so thanks for the insight!), and how much I would start basing my WoPA worth on how many blog hits or comments I was getting. I still feel a tinge when I hear people talking about meetings I don't go to anymore online, or emailing or talking or texting each other when I don't email/text/talk with that person often, even when I adore them. I have so many of these insecurities, and it's been good for me to practice letting go of them (to varying degrees of success). So, I loved how honestly you addressed this, because I can relate to a lot of it. <br />And not to take away from any of the great lessons you're learning in all this, can I just add, YOU WILL BE MISSED! There will be a Jane shaped hole in the Conference that nobody else will fill.HXhttp://workingtowardshealing.blogpost.comnoreply@blogger.com