tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post536803634302486033..comments2023-10-07T08:28:40.726-07:00Comments on Learning from My Husband's Pornography Addiction: When Did I Get so Mean?Janehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15354593791540400671noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-82944917288223375252019-01-13T21:47:56.952-08:002019-01-13T21:47:56.952-08:00I would like to share my solved issue here my husb...I would like to share my solved issue here my husband applied for the divorce and than one of my friend Sashay who knows Dr Lawrence from long time, gives me his number, Lawrence told me that my husband is under some lady black magic control i did not expected that but than i paid 500 Dollars as because she told me she need to buy saffron for purest magic and than after 3 days my husband refuse to get divorce i am so thankful to Dr Lawrence he helped me at the time i needed help thanks to Dr Lawrence too. My husband and my relation is now totally fine. Drlawrencespelltemple@gmail.com whatapps +1) 914 208 8349TANYA SMITHShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16189383321825317393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-51111595225586414472013-10-13T22:04:18.952-07:002013-10-13T22:04:18.952-07:00Add me to the list of people who love you. :)
Thi...Add me to the list of people who love you. :)<br /><br />This is another one of those damn balance issues. I don't like who I am, I don't like who he is. Everything sucks and it's everybody's fault. <br /><br />But here's what I suspect: none of that part (the blame, the mistakes, the losing it on either side) matters. The part that matters is now. Today. Buffalo Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05715621872243024241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-60429456097644587512013-10-12T16:08:51.969-07:002013-10-12T16:08:51.969-07:00I loved this post -- I've come back to reread ...I loved this post -- I've come back to reread it like three or four times now. It just really resonated with me. 'Cause yeah, all you're asking for is a bare minimum of what a marriage should be -- and yet I've had these same feelings in the past of it's ME who seems to be changing for the worst in all this (especially as he's grown in recovery) -- and I've had more than a few of my tear filled rants of how I was PISSED because he screwed up everything with porn initially, but how I felt like it was going to be ME and my trauma and my anger and my hurt that was going to destroy us and our family. So yeah, this post totally resonated with me. So much so.HXhttp://workingtowardshealing.blogpost.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-92132179001328939352013-10-11T22:31:47.887-07:002013-10-11T22:31:47.887-07:00Angry birds on your phone all day? Of course you ...Angry birds on your phone all day? Of course you would get an angry wife. Even marriages without this disease would feel the rift. The hard part is, the addiction shoots the stakes through the roof. The dominos topple faster, and we are left questioning why the heck we are even fighting for this marriage anyway. Take it one day at a time, there is a very good reason to keep fighting. Love you!Marleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02081458884731101084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-2881121600071741052013-10-11T12:28:29.035-07:002013-10-11T12:28:29.035-07:00I think thats how I felt so lost. Because I had be...I think thats how I felt so lost. Because I had become this way. I threatened him any time something was out of sorts. i was mean about it. But we are in a place where we ARE unsafe. ANd we are just trying to learn how to deal with this all the right way WHILE being true to ourselves. Its hard.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13299386823212424669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-69921260698958498212013-10-11T12:00:45.968-07:002013-10-11T12:00:45.968-07:00Those signs, the "red flags" that the SA...Those signs, the "red flags" that the SA isn't working on their recovery quite like they should can be maddening. It can take me days to realize I have to detach with love or I'm right there being baited just like you described. It's such an easy trap to fall into. I hate it when I do it. I know better and I still fall into. I have to focus on my recovery and not his during those times otherwise I drive myself nuts. I allow myself to get angry and either blog about it, journal it out or tell my S-Anon group. This was a great post. It really speaks the truth.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-44673617398882299982013-10-11T10:54:46.048-07:002013-10-11T10:54:46.048-07:00It is absolutely ok to be angry. I would be more w...It is absolutely ok to be angry. I would be more worried if you weren't. A book I am currently reading has helped me understand anger - its uses and abuses - and forgiveness. I am only part way through the book and I am no where near where I need and hope to be on the forgiveness scale, I can highly recommend the book. http://www.amazon.com/Forgive-Live-Forgiveness-Save-Your/dp/0785297251MMMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06231643622582434773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-55359903284217275092013-10-10T20:48:25.640-07:002013-10-10T20:48:25.640-07:00Thank you for this post. It really hit home with ...Thank you for this post. It really hit home with me as I have been dealing with very similar emotions lately, and a bit afraid of who I am becoming. *hugs*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03270125206728156959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-35276129062150142162013-10-10T17:45:40.030-07:002013-10-10T17:45:40.030-07:00Over the years of my husbands pornography addictio...Over the years of my husbands pornography addiction I could feel myself becoming someone I didn't want to be. I would never treat anyone the same way I treated my husband. Anger is so hard for me. I've come to realize that there is always an underlying emotion, usually sadness. I too think it is OK to feel anger, though. When I allow myself to feel it, and even validate my anger, it tends to leave so much quicker. But sometimes in the heat of the moment.....<br />I love your blog and admire your courage. I relate perfectly to so many of your posts. Thanks for sharing your experiences and helping those of us still too scared to express the goings on in our lives, even it is behind the protection of a computer screen.Rosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14812521480845876818noreply@blogger.com