tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post4887731243572427748..comments2023-10-07T08:28:40.726-07:00Comments on Learning from My Husband's Pornography Addiction: You Don't Need No ManJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15354593791540400671noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-48342132537956649522013-12-03T19:05:46.198-08:002013-12-03T19:05:46.198-08:00I just love you, Jane. And I miss you like crazy.I just love you, Jane. And I miss you like crazy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16165775571889459622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-90611881430545406892013-12-03T18:55:55.706-08:002013-12-03T18:55:55.706-08:00This is soooo true. I hope others who would benef...This is soooo true. I hope others who would benefit from this realization, see your blog post!!! I spent 10 yrs looking to my husband to fill my emotional needs. He was COMPLETELY unable to do so (for many reasons). I endured unnecessary, self imposed anguish and misery! FINALLY, God saw fit to allow me to realize my emotional needs could be met by God. I also agree with the big picture, marriage between a man and woman is part of God's plan. However, the minute I removed those expectations I had for my husband and marriage...our marriage GREATLY improved. For the past five years later, I have had a "happy" life that is not solely dependent on my husband. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-53863055977065940312013-12-03T16:22:51.005-08:002013-12-03T16:22:51.005-08:00Tell it, sister! LOVE this post.Tell it, sister! LOVE this post.my two worldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03603944900688346024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4105200008559051844.post-30751915652250024962013-12-03T07:10:37.931-08:002013-12-03T07:10:37.931-08:00I had a similar conversation with a client recentl...I had a similar conversation with a client recently-- she was struggling with school stuff, and she was talking about how hard it was that her partner wasn't supportive. We had to sort through to identify that she would be successful and able to do all of this if she were single, so she doesn't need her partner to get through this-- but gosh, it sure would be nice if he would be willing to help. So we talked about how she could communicate that she wasn't expecting him to provide for her needs, but that it would be meaningful to her if he did. It created a space where she wasn't dependent, and framed the relationship as an opportunity rather than an expectation. <br /><br />We don't need someone else. And personally, it's more exhausting when I place the expectation on someone else to do something and then am disappointed when they don't than it is to just do it all myself. I just need to remember to make self-care a priority so it doesn't get sacrificed to take care of everything/one else. Amommyoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00470654647798070787noreply@blogger.com